People often talk about if they could go back in time what would they tell their younger self. These five things are so important in life that yes, I wish I knew them sooner; however, I am going to hold on to them at my age of thirty-eight.
1. Compare Yourself Only to Yourself
You should only be in competition with one person, and that is your previous self. Comparing to others will only discourage you. You have no idea how long these people have been trying, how much they prayed, or how hard they have worked to be where they are. Or in the case of social media, how much of it is real. Stay in your lane and focus on you and I guarantee you see results in whatever you're putting your effort into.
2. Carbs Do Not Make You Fat, Bad Habits Do!
I feared eating carbs for most of my life. On the other side of the fear was indulgence followed by self loathing. With Isagenix that has changed. I saw all my friends seeing results from it, but looked at the carbs and told myself "you can't lose weight with carbs in your diet!" Here we are two years later and those same girls and guys were still seeing results. I figured what can it hurt to try it. If it doesn't work I will just go back to eating salads only. (No FUN) That would just lead to a day of all carbs and feeling horrible. Little to my surprise I am 1.5 months in and 21 lbs. of pure body fat down. No carbs diets are just not sustainable, and it isn't healthy either for your heart. Look for my blog posting soon on my diet plan and how I lost my first 21 lbs. If I can do it you can do it!
3. People's Judgements Are Usually A Reflection of Their Self Hate.
I have learned that when people go out of their way to judge you it is usually coming from a place within. It is something they don't like about themselves. By being in front of them doing it you are showing it to them. They are not aware of this thing they don't like so it projected on to you. It could be that they're overweight and they are judging your new diet or way of working out. It could be that they tell you that your spending is too much, yet they have no idea how to budget. Don't take the words of someone else personal. You have no idea what they are going through or what lesson they're in the middle of. If you let it effect you it will hold you back. Someone smart once said to me in NYC if you are NOT being judged you are NOT enough out of your comfort zone to make changes in your life and learn lessons. Don't be afraid to fail in front of everyone you know, even if they judge you.
4. If it Doesn't Make You Happy or Give You Value, Cut It Off.
This one is hard for many people yet so simple. No matter if it is a friend, boyfriend, job, family member, or so on. If it/they don't make you happy or bring some sort of value to the table cut them/it off. This doesn't mean you get in one fight and boom you are out. It means if time after time it is always you putting in the effort, always you going above and beyond, always you picking up the phone and making the phone call, and so on it is time to let it go. God would never want you to be in a situation where you were treated badly. Sometimes a bad situation can be a lesson, but if it isn't a lesson or a blessing get out!
5. An A.M. and P.M. Routine Will Bring You Success!
Sticking to a routine in the A.M. and P.M. this year has changed my life in only just a few months. It takes sixty days to form a habit. It has been four months and everything has shifted for me. Not just with my production, but also less stress, no anxiety or depression (which I had often), a clearer mind, a healthier body, and more time to do all the things I am passionate about. It isn't easy to start, but I promise you that you will love the results. A study at Columbia University even stated that a morning routine can make you 80% happier. That is a fact that I can stand behind.
These may seem like simple things to many of you reading this blog; however, it look me almost 40 years to learn them. I know some people out there that could benefit from reading this, and I hope it reaches you. You still have plenty of time to make the changes towards your happy life. Don't wake up next year wishing you started today. Get up, and get moving.